When the Select Committee on Anatomical Gifts was approved my Chief of Staff remembered Kathleen Norris
and checked her out. Jack reported she was still job shopping and had accepted the position of Liaison
for the Select Committee on Anatomical Gifts. She moved to Sacramento with her children, Sarah and Rusty.
When I declined to run in the new district and left the Senate Jack Germain moved to the Department of
Health and Welfare as the Public Information Officer and took Kathleen with him as his assistant. Later,
when he left to become a lobbyist Kathleen moved up to his position as PIO. We had started dating.
Two years later we married. Bill had sold a Dial One master franchise to Japan and he and Sally were
going to visit the owners, both for business and pleasure. I called Marsh Fisher, the cofounder of
Century 21 who had built a home on Oahu, and asked if he wanted to host a wedding. He said he did, so on
the way to Japan we stopped at his home on the beach across the bay from Diamond Head. We were married
with Diamond Head in the background and Marsh, his girl friend, Bill and Sally, the Minister, the caterer
and the musicians in attendance.
From there we continued our trip to Japan where we had several wonderfully escorted, sightseeing trips
and extraordinary cuisine. In addition we played golf with our hosts at their private club and enjoyed a
community hot pool bath afterwards.
When Kathleen left her position at Health and Welfare we purchased a home in Carlsbad to be close to her
four children. Two were married and her abusive ex-husband continually tried to undermine her relationship
with Sarah and Rusty. I admired the calm way she always responded by leaving the children out of it and
never reciprocating to his questionable claims and statements that he made to them as well as her.
Using the knowledge acquired as the PIO of Health and Welfare she offered her legal services to licensed
care facilities charged with serious violations. In addition, she volunteered as a children's" advocate in
troubled, court involved divorces. Some cases were heart breaking when a judge failed to put the children’s
needs first. That is where she would step in and represent the children’s best interest.
However, our marriage slowly dissolved. Neither of us were looking for or seeing anyone else and we got
along okay but whatever had brought us together wasn’t strong enough. We agreed to a divorce and Kathleen
handled all of the legal details.
I moved to Oceanside while she remained in Carlsbad where she eventually remarried. We still communicate
by e-mail infrequently about all of our children.
I was looking for something challenging to do when a Century 21 franchise salesman told me that Fullerton
Mortgage and Escrow Company in Oceanside was looking for a person to start up a Century 21 real estate
franchise for them. I cut a short term agreement with the owners, John and Eric Hartman, and after it was
up and running I remained eight years as an Associate Broker. I admired their business ethics and later
sponsored John in the Oceanside Rotary.
I also joined the Chamber of Commerce when I joined Century 21 Mission Realty. The Chamber was recovering
from near bankruptcy in the early 90s recession and I was invited to serve on the Board and start up a
"Government Affairs Committee." Scott Ashton, a young man just hired by the Chamber, and I called all the
businesses in town and soon had over 20 members. The committee is still strong and studies issues and makes
recommendations to the Chamber Board of Directors to act upon. I chaired it tor 6 years until I was elected
President.
Serendipity! A Chamber staff member talked me into attending the Chamber 4th of July Dance saying I could
sit at her table. A lady by the name of Anne Portante was also at the table who had also been talked into
coming. I danced with her a couple of times and two weeks later invited her to lunch.
Anne was unmarried and the Administrative Assistant to Colleen O’Harra, an attorney and City Council member
as well as her close, personal friend. She had spent most of her life in Oceanside, active in several
charitable groups having served or, still serving on their boards. Everyone knew Anne. Between Anne, the
Chamber and Rotary I was soon entrenched both socially and community wise.
Two years later we were married in Steve and Janet Lacy’s gazebo in their beautiful yard. Colleen O’Harra
obtained a County authorization to perform our marriage and Richard Shelley, my friend from our Jaycee days,
was my best man. Of course Anne’s family was there and Marsh Fisher, my step daughter Keri and my former
assistant, Carol Roberts, whose first job was working for me when I opened the Century 21 Regional office
so many years before.
But after 9 years the thought of working out of my home became irresistible so I recreated Sparow Realty and
worked out of our home. Unexpectedly I acquired an unusual sales lady, Laura Bassett, the daughter of Colleen
who had married us. She quickly equaled any of my past, top sales agents, meeting the measure of integrity as
well as productivity while requiring the least training and supervision. In addition she home schooled her
five children with the help of her home based, business-man husband.
I had encouraged her to get her brokers license and when I retired 2007 she and her husband, Taylor, started
their own home based real estate company. I refer any leads and they have done well in a declining real estate
market.
I had joined Rotary in the mid 70s in Long Beach but in the Senate it was impossible to attend weekly as
required. I join the Oceanside Rotary and I have thoroughly enjoy our members, meetings and activities. We have
more than 32,000 clubs worldwide and over 1.2 million members, a great, organization that accomplishes so much.
It was in the papers this morning that Bill Gates had just donated 350 million in support of our nine year fight
against polio.
Rotary brings together business and professional leaders to provide humanitarian service, encourage high ethical
standards in all vocations, and help build goodwill and peace in the world. Our best-known motto is "Service
above Self" and our Four Way Test of the things we think, say or do:
Is it the truth; Is it Fair to all concerned;
Will it build Goodwill and Better Friendships; and, Will it be Beneficial to all concerned? It sits on a shelf
above my desk.
I discovered recently that Century 21 regional owner, Bud Cashen, was a Rotarian funding and working with a
Rotary team that constructed schools and health clinics in third world countries.
Anne continues to be just as active and her main charity activity for some time has been creating an e-mail
list of theatre lovers, selecting worthy plays and shows, contracting for discount groups, notifying her e-mail
contingency and selling the seats at a markup but still less than full price. As I write she has three plays
going, two of them months away. She averages approximately $8,000 a year for Civitan, Soroptimists and the
Moonlight Angeles, a theatre support group. She doesn’t even take a freebee for herself.
Over the years she has been president of all of them. Needless to say she spends a lot of time at her computer
and on the phone. I need to add that she joined another Rotary Club, we have four in Oceanside and Camp Pendleton,
and is now their President. She attends Jazzercise and takes her great grand children to school when her work
schedule permits. I am very proud of her.
I loved Long Beach but it has been replaced in my heart by Oceanside. When I came here the City motto was,
“Tan your hide in Oceanside”. In my opinion they made a mistake in changing it. To prove my point, you won’t
find anyone who knows our current motto whatever it is.
It is the third largest city in San Diego County with a population of approximately 175,000. We have the largest
and the most beautiful of all the California Missions that is still in full use. Huge Camp Pendleton lies directly
on our north for 16 miles.
Now add, the longest pier on the west coast at 1972 feet with a Ruby’s Restaurant at the end where we take our
guests. Sometimes porpoises can be seen swimming with the surf boarders. A beautiful yacht harbor with sightseeing
boats and deep sea fishing, miles of sandy beach where Michael surfs when he visits from Halifax, Nova Scotia.
In addition we have a small airport that the City has decided to bring up to date due to the efforts of those of
us who love and support flying. And, for the arts we have a notable art museum and two theaters the City purchased
that are used for plays, shows and other events. To all that, add small town flavor, and you have Oceanside.
With the opening of Camp Pendleton in 1942 Oceanside had quickly become a military town with an abundance of
barber shops, tattoo parlors, beer hall, bars, massage parlors, military supplies and dry cleaning stores that
dominated the business district. In addition, the rail road paralleling Coast Hwy three blocks away had a
switching yard and there was a small oil refinery. All together not very pretty.
In spite of the beach, tourists were not attracted because there were no fine hotels, restaurants or shopping
but there were a lot of seedy motels catering to prostitutes. However, by the time I arrived in 1993 it had grown
considerably and was shaking off the honky-tonk image and attracting tourists. Now we have our first four star
hotel with another to be constructed soon.
We take great pride in our Military and the Chamber formed a Military Affairs Committee with noncoms and officers
from Camp Pendleton and started hosting a quarterly breakfast honoring the outstanding enlisted personnel from
each military unit. Our largest project has been an annual Military Recognition Day when we host hundreds of the
Armed Services and their families on the Strand at the Pier. It includes hotdogs, etc and entertainment for all
including the smaller children.
A big affair was a ticker tape parade for the first Marines returning from Iraq. The commanding general was so
impressed with our zeal he furnished their band, tanks and other equipment including a fly over. Every commanding
general of the base in the past few years has said they have never been stationed at a base where they had so
much support from the civilians. The Chamber led the way. And our four Rotary Clubs in the area, including one on
the Base, have many retired Marines and other service retirees and veterans. Each Veterans Day my Rotary reads
the names and service of our deceased veteran members to the back ground of Taps. Oceanside is very proud of our
Military and we express it.
There are also many fine golf courses in the city and close by. Most notable of course is Torrey Pines which
I’ve enjoyed several times. Joining the Virginia Country Club in Long Beach hooked me on golf followed by a
membership in Rancho Marietta, just outside of Sacramento that had two excellent 18 hole courses.
In spite of the fact that I started too late with too little talent I loved the game and had the opportunity to
play all of the courses on the Monterey Peninsula including Cypress and the Monterey Peninsula Country Club. The
most memorable, in addition to Cypress, was staying at the Lodge several times and playing Pebble Beach. Others
were the Royal Montréal in Canada, the oldest course on the American continent and, as a guest of my Jaycee friend,
Ira Kay from San Pedro, a very old English club located in New Territory, Hong Kong.
Many mornings, before going to the Senate, I would play a nine hole course across the river in Yolo County just
outside of the Capitol. The mornings were beautiful and by being first off I could be in the Capitol in time for
the sessions or committee meetings.
The Assistance League had a big fund raiser ever year and the news paper publisher Dan Ridder, on the left in the
photo, would offer a game with Bob Hope at Hope’s course in Palm Desert. I won the bid when I was living in
Sacramento and working on Dial One.
One of my franchisees owned a plane and for the opportunity to meet Hope we flew down for the match. Needless to
say it was a great honor to spend some time with the man who did so much to support our troops through WWII, Korea
and Viet Nam and at every other opportunity. At the turn he told the story of playing with Chi Chi Rivera. Chi Chi
hit a slice that looked like it might be out of bounds. Hope was walking down the center of the fairway and Chi Chi
was off to the right walking the out of bounds stakes. Hope called over and asked if the ball was in bounds. Chi Chi
called back and said, “Not yet.” (You may have to be a golfer to understand it.)